In romantic relationsships, as with so much else, it's the little things that count. Just as a mis-spoken word or odd look can throw a couple into a weeks-long feud, small and seemingly insignificant gestures can help keep a relationship on track. A little gift, an off-hand compliment, a moment of physical contact can vastly strengthen a relationship.

　　According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic relationships, these little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the "active listening" and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

　　当一个人深陷于浪漫的爱情中,对许多小事都变得计较起来.例如,一个口误或一个鬼脸都能让一对情人战斗一周之久,细小而看起来不重要的动作却有助于维持彼此的关系保持正常.一件小礼物,一句不加思索的赞美,一会儿身体的接触,都可以大大地强化爱情.

　　根据心理学家Nathaniel Branden和Robert Sternberg的介绍,他们都是研究有关浪漫爱情中的挑战,并撰写相关的文章.以下少少的兴致和感情的表露,（对于维持爱情,）会比一切的积极聆听和信任游戏更重要.他们的研究得出维持两者彼此之间感觉愉快,满意和高兴的10个关键.

　　1. Tell your partner you love them.

　　Although it's true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship.

　　1.告诉你的伴侣,你爱他/她.

　　虽然,行动比口号更加有力,但言语往往比行动更清晰.时而,花一点儿时间对你的情人表达你的感受.简单的一句"我爱你"或"你是我的一切"可以让你重要的另一伴感到自己是你相要的,关心的和保护的人.阿

　　2. Show some affection.

　　Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy.

　　2.表露感情.

　　小小的亲密的身体接触 —— 漫步在走廊中时用手搂着对方的腰,一起坐在沙发上时用手臂抱着对方的,并排坐时手放在对方的大腿上,逛街时牵着手 —— 能给对方一种温暖的感觉,也传达你对其的爱和情感.微不足道的接触也能是重要的,甚至是比那最长时间的性爱之夜更重要.

　　3. Show appreciation for your partner.

　　Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn't jsut about the initial bonding – it's about encouraging and supporting each other's growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up.

　　3.赞赏对方.

　　定期地,让对方知道你最喜欢她/他的什么地方——你倾慕的东西,令你自豪的东西,对方在你眼中的强项.构建一段浪漫的爱情不是仅仅指刚开始的结合——（也包括）在各自的人生成长过程中,相互鼓励相互支持.通过不断地鼓励,帮助你的情人的发挥自己的潜能.

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