Children learn what’s the most important to their parents. You may just think that you are sitting down to send a few emails, but if your child asks for your attention and you ask them to hold on, they’ve learned something from this interaction. If your child sees you and your spouse sitting down in front of the television every night and not communicating, they’ve learned something from that, too. On the other hand, if your children see you hiring a babysitter so you can your spouse can go out on a date, they’ve learned that you both value your relationship and making time for one another. If you decide not to worry about cleaning the bathroom and play a game of Chutes and Ladders instead, they’ve learned that they are more important to you than a clean house. Of course, you can’t be expected to be at your child’s beckoned call every day. But remember that your children learn about what matters most to you by what you do, not what you say。

　　孩子们知道，什么对父母来说最重要。例如当你坐下来发电子邮件的时候，你的孩子过来跟你说点什么，但是你让他等一下，孩子会这种反应中看出点什么。如果你的孩子看到你们夫妻俩每晚都坐在电视机前而没有交流，他们也会学到点什么。另一方面，如果你的孩子看到你雇佣了一个保姆，这样你们夫妻就可以去外面约会，他们可以学到你们两人都很用心维护彼此的关系，并为此争取时间。如果你决定不清洁浴室而陪伴孩子们玩“爬坡与梯子”的游戏，孩子就会知道在大人心中，他们比大扫除更重要。当然，不是孩子的每次呼唤都会得到回应。但是请记住，孩子们能从你的所作所为--而不是夸夸其谈中学到，对你来说什么是最重要的。

　　What did you teach your child today? You may be surprised to learn that it was much more than you realized. Parents have to remember that little eyes are always watching, and some of the most important lessons children learn about life might actually happen while they are doing things other than parenting。

　　你是如何教育你的孩子呢？你可能会惊讶，孩子们学到的远胜于你所教的。家长们要记住的是，那些小眼睛们总是在看着，而孩子们学到的最重要的课程，是从父母的行为之中，而非说教之中。

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