Everyone says they can't remember names, but I really can't, and I forget faces too! Once, I didn't recognize a (fairly new) neighbor at the market. I'm not self-absorbed or uncaring--what's wrong with me?

Odds are, nothing, says Joel Kramer, PsyD, a neuropsychologist in San Francisco. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, he says, and some people are just bad at recalling names and faces.

Of course, it's also possible you have a condition called prosopagnosia, or face blindness, in which people suddenly have trouble recognizing family members, friends, or even themselves. Folks with this condition can have problems following the plot of movies because they can't keep track of the characters' identities. Prosopagnosia can be caused by brain damage from a stroke or head trauma, or degenerative diseases.

So if it's a new symptom that's getting worse, Kramer suggests a doctor's visit, just in case. Otherwise, this may simply be a charming quirk (maybe not so charming to your neighbor).

Some people's voices drive me crazy. It could be their whininess or their intonation or the annoying habit of saying everything as a question? It gets so disturbing for me that I completely lose track of what they're actually saying. Am I alone?

You're normal--it's those other people who have a problem, our experts say. "A lot of people actually have annoying voices," says psychologist Bartell. "Especially now that people talk on their cell phones so loudly all the time, you hear their obnoxious voices, whining, and complaining! And they don't have the self-reflection to know it, and no one is going to tell them."

You're also not the only one to be driven bonkers by people who say everything as a question, also known as uptalk. A New York University professor coined the term in 1993, no doubt to describe the linguistic habits of California teens in the 1980s. Now it's everywhere. New York senator Kirsten Gillibrand recently got fricasseed in the press for talking like a Valley Girl. Some experts think it conveys an informal friendliness; others think it telegraphs meekness.

What do whiners and questioners have in common? The fact that you can't just put them on mute. It may help to focus on the content of the conversation rather than the incredibly irritating delivery.

I have a satisfying life and am generally happy, but not a day goes by without an uncomfortable scene in which I screwed up flashing through my mind. Sometimes I replay painful conversations I've had with two friends who are now estranged. Why am I plagued by regrets?

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