Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances。

　　别急着这样想：极度的憎恨里面包含着太多伤痛。我们以为不宽恕等于自我保护。要承认以下说法并善待自己：宽恕意味着你决心不让怨恨在内心化脓，即便它每隔一会儿才爆发一次。宽恕是一种强有力但又难掌控的工具，它能给你支持、给你荣誉，甚至在极度严酷的环境下也是如此。

　　Doc Childre and Howard Martin, The HeartMath Solution

　　奇尔德博士及霍华德·马丁《心智算数解决方案》

　　The incoherence that results from holding on to resentments and unforgiving attitudes keeps you from being aligned with your true self. It can block you from your next level     of quality life experience. Metaphorically, it's the curtain standing between the room you're living in now and a new room, much larger and full of beautiful objects. The act of forgiveness removes the curtain. Clearing up your old accounts can free up so much energy that you jump right into a whole new house. Forgiving releases you from the punishment of a self-made prison where you are both the inmate and the jailer。

　　长期的愤恨、不宽恕的态度带来的内心不和谐不统一，使你不能和你的“真我”结为一体，妨碍你享受更高层次的生活体验。打个比方来说，它像是一幅帘子，悬挂在你现在所住的房间和一个新房间之间。而这个新房间相对大得多、有更多漂亮的物品。宽恕可以揭去这幅帘子。清除过去的芥蒂可以解放你的能量，使你直接跳入一个全新的房子。宽恕解除你的自我惩罚，把你从自建的监狱中释放。在那个监狱里，你既是囚犯，又是看守。

　　Sara Paddison, Hidden Power of the Heart 萨拉·帕蒂森 《心的潜能》

　　Sincere forgiveness isn't colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don't worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time—just like it does for you and me。

　　真心的宽恕，不指望他人的道歉或改变。不必担心他们最终会不会理解你。爱他们，放过他们。生活会用他自己的方式和时机向人们回馈真理——正如他对你我所做的一样。

　　David McArthur & Bruce McArthur, The Intelligent Heart

　　戴维·麦克阿瑟 和 布鲁斯·马克阿瑟，《聪明的心》

　　Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively。

　　很多人害怕宽恕，因为他们觉得，得记住罪过，否则无法从中吸取教训。其实反过来才对。通过宽恕，罪过松开了对我们情感的束缚。这样，我们才能从中吸取教训。通过心的力量和智慧来实行宽恕，可以带来更大的智慧，使我们更有效地应对各种情况。

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