我的幸福，我做主 

"You are the only one who can make you happy." We have all heard that so many times in our lives.
“你是唯一一个可以让自己幸福的人。”我们的生活中常常听到人们这么说。
There are times it is a pretty tough pill to swallow. In reality, the people that surround you have a huge impact on your current mood. When your children are grumpy in the morning, you find a nice pile the dog left you over night, you hit the road and the traffic won't allow you your normal speed, then when you get to work and your co-worker called in sick... these are all things that might contribute to your overall Happiness of the day.
那些时间就像在吞咽一颗苦涩的药片让人无奈。事实上，你周围的人会对你的心情有相当大的影响。例如，早晨你的孩子很不听话，一夜过后你的狗给你留下一堆"特别"的东西，你开车的路上交通阻塞，当你开始工作时你的同事打电话说他身体不适等等，这些事情都将会影响你一整天的幸福感觉。
 

However, moods and temporary emotions are not the same as happiness. Happiness exists when you look at the overall picture of your life and you smile, that is happiness. You know those times when you can't wait for your children to go to bed, then later you check on the kids and you almost cry because they look exactly like angels... YOUR ANGELS, sleeping so sweetly and soundly. You can hardly remember a time of irritation with them. That is Happiness.
然而，心情和暂时的情感都是不能和幸福相提并论的。当你回顾自己的生活的方方面面，仍面带微笑，那就是幸福。是的，这才是幸福。你知道的，你没能等到你孩子去睡觉，但是当去检查他们睡得是否安好时，你几乎能流泪，因为他们睡得是如此的香甜，就像是天使……你的天使。你似乎不记得他们曾惹你生气了，这才是幸福。

As life progresses and changes, we realize that who we are, (what makes us, us)... that is what we are responsible for. We know that immediate gratification or irritation only pacifies or deteriorates our emotional stimuli short term. Our global view of how we see ourselves determines our state of mind. Our state of mind determines our Happiness.
随着生活的变化和提高，我们开始认识到我们是谁，（是什么造就了现在的我们…）…我们的责任是什么。我们知道一时的满足和烦恼只是使我们使情绪得到短暂的安慰或恶化。我们对自己的整体看法才会决定我们精神状态，而我们的精神状态又决定我们的幸福。

So, how do we take control of our emotions and find the path of Happiness? This seems to be the million dollar question. There are tons of books on or related to the subject. You could read and practice until you are completely confused. Or, we could spend the rest of our life introspectively evaluating what makes us happy. Which might take more time and energy and actually frustrate us more.
于是，我们要如何来控制我们的情绪，进而发现通往幸福的捷径呢？这似乎是一个价值连城的问题。已经有成吨重的书对这个主题进行了阐述或涉及。你可以读读这些书并依此付诸实践，你会变得迷惑不解；或者，我们可以用我们余下的时间来反思和评估是什么让我们幸福。这些可能占有我们更多的时间和精力和带给我们更多的挫败。

How about this? What if we looked at ourselves and decided what we liked and didn't like and set about making changes. It doesn't have to be major alterations. Maybe you are tired of your house but can't afford to move. Try painting the living room or buying flowers to set on the kitchen table. If you haven't had a vacation for a while and just can't afford to take that cruise, go camping instead.
那么如果我们这样做呢？我们如果先自我审视一番，然后决定什么是我们喜欢的，什么是我们不喜欢的，接着开始改变。没有必要一定是大的变化。例如，可能你已经厌倦了你现在的房子，但是你又没有钱新买房搬家。那么你可以试着给你的房间刷上新的油漆，或者买一些花放到你的餐桌上。可能你暂时没有时间或金钱长途旅行，那么你可以尝试去露营。

Maybe the issues are more personal or internal. Do you get mad too easily? Learn yoga or meditation. Are you having marital problems? Visit a counselor. Are the kids having discipline issues? Determine the major issues, establish guidelines on how you are going to correct the problem and stick to it.
这些话题可能太私人：你很容易发火吗？那就学习瑜伽或者尝试冥想吧！你遇到婚姻难题吗？那就去咨询一下婚姻顾问吧！你的孩子不守规矩吗？那你可以找出主要问题，然后列出你打算纠正问题的准则并持之以恒。

You may be saying, 'Sure, that sounds so easy but...' Of course it sounds easy. Problems are always easier to talk about than to take the obvious actions to fix them. But, for the most part, things are as difficult or as easy as we determine them to be. Sometimes we just make things harder than necessary.
你可能会说，“是的，这些听起来很简单，但是……”这听起来当然简单。谈论问题总是比付诸行动去解决问题要简单的多。然而，问题是困难的还是简单的全凭我们解决的决心的大小。有时我们可能把问题不必要的复杂化了。

If your unhappiness stems from a situation beyond your control then find other ways to compensate. If, for example, money is so tight and no apparent windfall is coming your way any time soon, find inexpensive entertainment. Backyard ballgames, picnics in the park, movie night with popcorn and snacks in your bedroom are a few alternatives to an expensive night out. If the issues are more serious and you feel powerless, that is the time to seek professional help.
如果你不幸福的原因是来源于一种你无法控制的情形，那你可以寻找其他方法来加以弥补。譬如，如果你生活拮据，也不太有可能会突然大发横财，那就找比较实惠的娱乐方式。比如，后院足球，公园野餐，看电影吃爆米花或者在卧室享受零食，做一些选择来期待一次昂贵的外出。如果问题比较严重而你有感到无力，这时你就应该向专业人士来寻求帮助。

Otherwise, look in the mirror and be glad. If you don't like what you see, change it. Make the solution that simple!
另外，看着镜子并保持愉悦心情。如果你不喜欢你所看到的，那就改变它。解决的方法很简单。