What are you looking for from a relationship? Someone to take care of you? Just a good time? Are you willing to give from yourself, or is it all going to be coming from the other person? The answers to these and other questions will determine if you are successful finding a good relationship. Some people say each person needs to give 50% in a relationship for it to be successful.That is not true. Each person must give 100% for it to work.

What are you bringing to the relationship? Baggage from the past? Unforgiveness? If this is true, then you are making it harder to have a great relationship. All these things happen in people's lives, sometimes with a lot of hurt. But you don't have to keep carrying around the trash from each old relationship to the next one, if you let God help you.

If you were moving from one house to another, you normally wouldn't take the trash from your old home to the next one. Then why would you want to bring the trash from old relationships to your new one, and possibly make it fail because you didn't resolve the hurts and other things you experienced?

God loves you, and wants you to have good relationships. But unforgiveness and bitterness and other obstacles won't help you in the next relationship. It will build a wall between the two of you that may be insurmountable, and consequently provide failure to your hopes and dreams for a better life.

Ask God to help you identify what needs to be changed so you can have a good chance to be successful with that new person. Otherwise you are just setting yourself up for heartbreak and a lot of other bad things, that keep getting worse with each new relationship. Is that what you want for yourself and the ones you love?

Don't push getting into a relationship. When you are too eager you miss warning signs that need to be dealt with before you make a mistake. Listen to God, and obey what He tells you. He knows people's hearts much better than you do. He knows the best one for you, and He will show you if you ask. Read Proverbs 3:5-6, that is His promise to you.

If you look in the wrong places for someone, you will be sorry. For instance, if you look for that person in a bar, you are again setting yourself up for disaster: health issues, anger problems, just to name two. But if you don't care where you look and who you find, then you will keep having one heartbreak after another. And the sad part is you will probably blame the other person instead of yourself.

When you go to college, you are preparing yourself for a career or whatever your goals are. Shouldn't you take the same idea and work on yourself to make you the best you can be as you wait for the right person to come along? You should be preparing yourself to find that right person at the right time.

So, what are you looking for in a relationship? Are you just letting it happen or are you preparing yourself with God's help so you can be successful when you do find that special someone. If you are looking for the external things like sex, and whatever else, then you will be disappointed. Look for the beauty within that person you are dreaming about, that is the beauty that lasts a liftetime and doesn't fade with age. Get close to God and look for someone who is like-minided, then put Him first in your relationship. Let Him guide your relationship rather than your own wisdom. He will bless you greatly if you do this.

There is an old saying, "If you don't learn from history you are destined to repeat it". The same is true on a personal level with your relationships. If you don't learn from your mistakes from others you have been in, you are destined to repeat those same mistakes again and again until you get the message. Is that what you want for your life? I hope not. Commit your life to God and let Him work in you and your relationships. He won't disappoint you, if you make Him your first priority. (Matthew 6:33)